"We have a responsibility to make our homes and relationships into safe
havens where our spouses can feel loved and secure. How is that possible? Where
do we begin? Is it possible for us to change our behavior? The answer is yes, people
can change. Perhaps one suggestion for change is to learn the doctrine of the taming
of the tongue, as taught by James in the New Testament. In James 3:6 we read that
“the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity.” This is so when we fail to bridle our tongue,
as James warns earlier in the epistle (see James 1:26). Truly, our words can dictate
the health of our relationships. Those spoken in critical anger can endanger a
relationship beyond repair, while those offered in love can build and fortify. " (Chapter 7: Dealing with Anger)
